Giving the gift of life
CONNOR SAUNDERS
Giving the gift of life
Beth’s Story
Sadly on the 28th September 2013, just 22 days after
celebrating her 21st birthday, our daughter, Beth, suffered a massive brain haemorrhage and passed away on 30th September at 10.39am.
Beth wanted to donate her organs.
If we can be called lucky, we were lucky because we knew the wishes of
one so young…..and the only way we knew about her wishes …..was
because…..we spoke about it.
Like most families, organ
donation is not at the top of your conversation list when you are
sitting around, playing, holidaying or having Sunday dinner or barbecues. Why should it be?
The actual conversation we had began
because Beth’s older sister Lydia works as a nurse at the Birmingham
children’s hospital on the children’s oncology ward and she had, as part
of her training, attended an operation where a man’s liver was prepared
to be transplanted into a young child. From that days conversation we
as a family had all agreed that organ donation was something that we
needed to support…..At the time I am sure Mandy & I felt we were
telling the kids our wishes that they would carry out. We never dreamt
it would be a decision we would have to make - AND I can honestly
say that the decision to agree to have Beth’s organs donated would have
been near impossible at such a totally devastating time without the
prior family discussions and a clear understanding of what our family
members wanted.
We decided as a family that we wanted Beth’s
selfless act of giving life to continue to promote the idea of organ
donation.. So we planned a web site for Beth. Part of it was to help
with our own grief, part to help Beth’s young friends with theirs. We
went live with Beth’s site in January 2014 www.rememberbeth.co.uk and have had over 9,500 hits so far.
We hoped the site would encourage people who visited it to discuss and support organ donation.
Organ donation does not just save ONE LIFE…it impacts on many more.
The
fact that one donor can help 8/9 people alone is fantastic but never
forget…the prayers of their spouse, their children, their brothers and
sisters, uncles, aunts and all their family and their friends. One gift
of life actually ENHANCES MANY.
We understood over that weekend
that although our prayers for a miracle were not being
answered……….potentially 8 or 9 others were and that hopefully hundreds
more were rejoicing in the news of an organ match.
All we want to do now on behalf of Beth is to encourage people / families / friends to discuss organ donation.
That has to be the first important step of 3 stages:
Discuss it
Without that discussion, if something unexpected happens, you will be lost and opportunities will be missed.
Act upon it
During
discussions hopefully people will realise the impact “the gift of life”
will have on many people and not just the recipient.
AND FINALLY…….
Register.